When I tell people I’m a Somatic Sexologist, they always ask, “How did you get into that?”
So how did I get into talking about lesbian sex on the internet? (my conservative gramma’s worse nightmare?) Funny story…
“Don’t have sex or you will get pregnant and die!”
-Coach Carr, Mean Girls
This sums up the attitude about sex in my household, growing up in a high control Christian group.
Sure, I’m a Denver, Colorado based Queer Somatic Sexologist now. But it’s not because I was always liberated in sex.
After struggling to navigate my sexuality, eating disorder, trauma, shame and a hefty dose of internalized homophobia, I got tired of playing by rules that were never made for me.
I finally created a relationship that was both secure and spicy. Where my body and my pleasure led the way instead of my trauma. And I knew I had to help other queer women and femmes experience this level of queer joy.
When I stopped performing and started listening to my body’s wisdom
I discovered something revolutionary to me: my body was not dangerous, wrong, or inconvenient like my conditioning and trauma convinced me.
My wildness, my instincts, my desire, my pleasure… it was the source of my freedom and joy in sex and intimacy…and in life!
This is about more than sex
This is about breaking cycles of shame, dismantling the systems that taught us to distrust ourselves, and building relationships rooted in authenticity, not acting out trauma patterns that don’t reflect who we are.
I’ve guided hundreds of sapphics through my Feral Connection Method to transform numbness, shame, and disconnection into intimacy that changes the world — awakening more queer joy and aliveness alive.
Because trusting your body is not only the path to intimacy. It’s an act of resistance.
What Makes My Approach Different?
The Feral Connection Method ditches flashy sex tips and is designed for queer folks to transform sexual, religious, and childhood trauma into ease and pleasure.
Backed By Science
Trauma needs relational and experiential healing—not just talk. Our therapeutic relationship is the basis for healing. And in that, we practice intimacy skills together. This is called experiential learning, and it’s fastest way to create new neural pathways, which lead to long lasting transformation. I won’t just throw more tools at you to go try on your own. (that’s what chapGPT is for).
Sapphic Centered
No more trying to adapt heteronormative advice and tips for your queer soul. Women who love other women have unique intimacy dynamics and struggles. If you’re looking to work with someone who GETS IT, I specialize in working with queer women(cis and trans) and AFAB folks.
100% Real
No Love & Light or Good Vibes Only around here. Your messiness and humanness are not only encouraged, but required for exciting, deep intimacy. There is no striving for perfection, being fully “healed”, or shame for not being regulated all the time like a cold robot. We get to be human, together.
When I’m not geeking out about intimacy you can find me…
Taking long walks with my dogs and a podcast
drinking black coffee by a camp fire with a good book (preferably one with that old book smell)
practicing digital minimalism
Your body already knows how to connect and how to heal.
My personal journey combined with my professional training as a Certified Somatic Sexologist, Somatica® sex and relationship coaching, Breathwork, and Somatic Stress Release, have shown me that trauma is not life sentence.
Two things are true: trauma impacted you AND you can access immense pleasure, bliss, and connection anyway.
That is your open invitation to experience the heights of pleasure.
If you're thinking, "this isn't possible for me" ... allow me to lovingly tell you that you are so wrong.