Create A Positive Relationship With Your Sexuality On Your Own Terms.

Lesbian*-centered somatic sex & intimacy education and sexological bodywork specializing in sexual/relational/religious trauma healing and developing “late bloomer” confidence || Based in Denver, Colorado

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Not quite ready? This is for you.

I’m Danie Bergstrom. Somatic Sexologist, Bodyworker, and creator of the Feral Intimacy Method.

Super self-aware but intimacy still feels complicated?Welcome! If you’re here, you’re likely…

…struggling to reliably access your arousal, feel safe in your body after trauma, or shake shame from purity culture and internalized homophobia. Maybe all of the above, or something else. Either way, you’re not broken!!! It’s just that finding healing, pleasure and confidence takes more than talking. I believe the way to a happier relationship with your sexuality isn’t about stockpiling more self awareness, pressuring your body, or “fixing” yourself…

It’s about reconnecting to your body’s natural intelligence and instincts for healing and pleasure, then trusting yourself enough to follow them. I call this process becoming feral.

I developed the Feral Intimacy Method to bridge the gap between logically understanding your intimacy struggles and actually reconnecting to your pleasure without overwhelming your nervous system.

And by reconnecting to our pleasure, we not only enjoy more fulfilling intimacy (yay!) but also create a new reality of connection and joy, giving the middle finger to the tech billionaires who think we will comply to their dystopia!

[ The Feral Intimacy Method ]

the only holistic intimacy approach made for self aware lesbians* that blends somatic therapy tools, inclusive sexuality education, and experiential learning for a happier relationship with your body, sexuality and intimacy.

RELAXATION —

Feel more comfortable in your body by working with your nervous system to create a sense of relaxation, presence and openness with the Body Trust Process. Understand your triggers and your strengths to gently leave survival mode and come into connection with your body at a pace that’s right for you.

DESIRE —

Learn what you like physically and psychologically by mapping your unique Pleasure Profile. Access pleasure in micro and macro ways, dissolve shame around your body and desires so you can stop performing and reliably turn yourself on without judgement whenever you want.

CONFIDENCE —

Ask for what you want with clarity using the Expansive Communication Framework. Get real time feedback on how your words and presence impacts me so you can notice and shift ingrained relationship patterns, build self confidence, and become a confident lover.

[ START YOUR FERAL PATH → ]

I’M READY FOR DEEP HEALING

Private Immersion

I WANT TO BUILD THE FOUNDATION

Intimacy Check-Up

A QUICK NOTE: It was really intimidating for me to reach out for hands-on support as someone who has experienced sexual harm. Maybe you’re feeling that too. I give deep attention to ethically navigating power dynamics between us and working with integrity.

Although I often guide folks through a loose structure that I break down above, we will always center your ongoing consent, goals, and move at the pace that feels safe enough for you. You are the expert on your body.

FAQS: No awkward questions!

  • No. You never have to be touched.

    Touch is never assumed, and you are always in control of what happens. Each session is built around explicit, ongoing consent.

    Touch is one tool available to you, but there is no agenda in our sessions.

    You can still benefit from this work learning to touch your own body, or we can stay in the realms of exploring “emotional touch”- the impact your words and body language have on another person. These emotional intimacy skills are so underrated!

    If you want to receive touch support from me, you’ll learn about embodied consent first so you feel empowered to direct the touch and change your mind at any time.

  • Every session is unique and tailored to you. And there is a wide menu of options and practices that we may explore together, depending on your desires and goals.

    This may include practices like visualizations to explore your erotic mind, real time practice asking for what you want, flirting, setting boundaries, and repair conversations, or breathwork.

    It may also include touch, anywhere on the spectrum of educational to nurturing to exploring states of arousal and genital touch.

    Everything is done with your full, ongoing consent and within strict boundaries, including meremaining clothed at all times, any genital touch is one way (from me to you) and always done with gloves.

    Some examples for loose reference points include:

  • That’s normal! We spend plenty of time coming up with a plan that matches your goals together, and move through it at the pace that’s right for you.

  • You don’t have to be! Again, your choice and consent is central in everything we do, or don’t do.

    Bodywork can be done with or without clothes, and you are welcome to undress or stay clothed to the level of your comfort.

    I will remain clothed at all times.

  • No. All interactions and touch are done solely for the purposes of your education and growth so that you can create more fulfilling intimacy outside our professional relationship.

  • Nope! I work with all women and femmes, and non-binary folks, though most of my clients are in or curious about sapphic relationship dynamics.

    If you’re an ally who is into my style, reach out and let’s see what’s possible!

  • Yes! I welcome whatever lights you up.

    I identify as kinky myself, and enjoy supporting clients around power dynamics.

  • No. I’m happy to talk about payment plans that may work for you on our connection call.

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