Somatic Sex Coaching in Denver, CO + online
it’s time to create deeper connection in and out of the bedroom
For sapphics who are out here communicating clearly, learning coping tools, and healing generational trauma, BUT when it comes to sex and intimacy, you still feel disconnected. The Erotic Reconnection Method will teach you how to finally feel safe, turned on, and deeply connected without pulling a hammy in a strange sex position or sounding like a therapy-speak robot.
Sapphics who have the deepest knowledge of their trauma can have the hardest time connecting intimately…
🦋 When you have a long list of coping tools and practices for controlling your emotions, it’s easy to have too much impulse control. (shutting down your natural sexual desire and impulses.)
🦋 When you are so practiced at introspection, it’s easy to get stuck in your head, analyzing the moment instead of being fully IN IT. (hello, self consciousness and performance anxiety.)
🦋 When you know all about your trauma and patterns, it’s easy to trip and fall into a shame spiral when trauma responses still show up around intimacy. (feeling like something is wrong with you doesn’t make you feel sexy, does it?)
…In short, the more self aware you are, the harder intimacy can be. But it doesn’t have to be this way.
You don’t need ten more years of therapy, more breath work techniques, or more deep dives down reddit rabbit holes at 2am to have intimacy with the depth, freedom and excitement you crave. (believe me, I’ve tried it all.)
You need to reconnect with your erotic energy.
(the erotic is more than sex)
The Erotic Reconnection Method
We go at your pace as we move away from talking in circles and build erotic fluency through helping your nervous system process trauma, sorting through shame and “shoulds” to uncover your true turn ons, and build communication and emotional intimacy skills through real time practice aka experiential learning (scientifically backed as the fastest way to master new skills).
Much like a rose, your erotic energy cannot be forced open
We simply create the environment for it to blossom.
I’ll give you the exact steps:
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Relaxation
Feel more comfortable in your body by processing built up emotions, stress and trauma from your nervous system. We do this gently and effectively with the Body Trust Process. Learn to read your body’s feedback and identify triggers so you are empowered to know what you need to create feelings of relaxation, presence and safety for yourself.
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Desire
Boost your libido by finding creative ways to work with shame and patterns that are holding you back from the experiencing pleasure. Bring back and sustain the spark by exploring your desires, boundaries and attachment so you can create an outline to access your arousal whenever you want. I call this your Pleasure Pathway.
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Confidence
Feel ready for deep intimacy as we go beyond talking and actively practice relationship skills together. We co-create an authentic, therapeutic connection where you will master skills of emotional intimacy like communicating boundaries, desires and flirting with honesty, compassion and curiosity using Playful Practice in my Expansive Communication System
SERVICES:
Working with sexuality is soo personal. Choose your own adventure.
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REKINDLE PRIVATE RETREAT:
If you want your intimacy to feel playful, alive, and connected, your healing has to have those elements too!
We work through each of the three phases of my Erotic Reconnection Method for the most effective transformation in relationship with your body, mind, and others.
This is for you if…
>You’ve already got some coping tools and have a hunch what’s blocking you
>your relationship with your erotic energy to this point has been missing or performative
>you’re busy and want the most efficient growth possible
What To Expect
+Feel relaxation and ease in your body before, during and after sex by releasing built up trauma from the past
+Create magnetism and an open, playful, and curious approach to sex
+Build a positive relationship with your body and gain self confidence
+Use my Pleasure Pathway to find out your deepest turn ons and embrace them without shame and internalized homophobia
+Develop emotional intimacy skills to share honestly and compassionately about anything so you can feel close even when the clothes are on.
Investment: Plans starting at $500/month
APPLY NOW
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INTIMACY CHECK-UP:
A one-off session to dive into what’s got you knee deep in the Reddit rabbit holes at 2am.
This is for you you if…
>You’re a new client, perhaps a “test it out” type of person, who wants to experience a session with me before committing to the REKINDLE private retreat.
>You’re returning client who wants a dose of real time support around a specific struggle.
Available Offline in Denver, Colorado or Online
Investment: $93
What To Expect
+Shame free, non judgmental space to be heard and understood
+Understand the root of your intimacy struggles
+Get a personalized next step to get you closer to connection right after our call!
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That makes sense! You know trauma is affecting your sex and intimacy, and you want to learn as much as you can and get simple steps to make a difference TODAY. Check out this free masterclass where I break it down into 3 steps.
Even if you’re shy or awkward, here are signs you're ready to reconnect to your erotic energy:
Your growth mindset has helped you take control of your life—
You try your best to eat your vegetables, limit your screen time, and exercise. You know that you have the power to create the life you want. But you’re realizing your self growth journey has left out sex and intimacy.
You have all the determination to create passionate and deep intimacy, but just don’t know the exact steps to take to get there.
You’re aware of your intimacy struggles, but they keep repeating—
After all the personal development you’ve done- reading books, learning from accounts on instagram, talk therapy, you could write your thesis on your childhood trauma, attachment style and patterns. And you’ve been told you’re so self aware.
Yet you’re frustrated that all that self awareness hasn’t translated to more pleasurable sex and feeling good in your body.
You’re doing the work to prioritize your relationship(s)—
Research consistently shows that strong human connections are vital for physical and mental well-being. You know this, so you communicate with “I” statements and make time to intentionally connect with your partner(s)…but it still feels like you are disconnected sexually from them.
You have a feeling that there is another level to sex and intimacy that you haven’t tapped into yet.
Let’s pause for a second.
What if I told you that creating the deeply connected sex and intimacy that has you daydreaming at work didn’t have to be so… exhausting?
Your body already knows how to access your natural erotic energy.
You just need to peel back layers of trauma getting the way of the pleasure you deserve.
And I am here to be your guide, cheerleader and accomplice to show you how to find your way back to your body, your aliveness, and your pleasure. And dare I say, we will have fun doing it!
free masterclass
Rekindle Connection After Trauma in 5 minutes a day
This masterclass breaks down the system that will help you gently heal trauma so you can connect deeper in and out of the bedroom.
Meet Danie
Somatic Sex Coach, Founder of the Erotic Reconnection Method, and Eternal Optimist
After ending a straight marriage and a lifetime of trying to fit into boxes that weren’t made for my queer soul, I created the Erotic Reconnection Method for those who dare to embrace taboos and break free from conditioning to access pleasure.
I work with lesbians and sapphics building intimacy skills for deeper connections. I believe love and human connection is the whole point of life, and I’m here to help you soak in as much as you want.
A few questions…
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Nope! Lesbian, bisexual, questioning, pansexual ... if you're a queer woman (cis and trans) or afab human, you’re in the right place.
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Yes! I welcome whatever lights you up. I specialize in exploring power dynamics.
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Nope! Sex coaching will help you develop a deeper connection with your body and yourself which unlocks more joy and pleasure in your life.
It also prepares you to be a great partner if/when you get in a relationship.
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Yes! No shame or judgment here. I aim to create a space where you feel safe to be yourself and share about your relationship(s) authentically.
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That makes sense! Its one of the most taboo topics. Rest assured we will move at your pace and create our sessions so that you will feel comfortable and get the most out of them.
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Traditional talk therapy works cognitively.
Typically with lots of story telling and venting.
This can be helpful. And, if talking solved all our problems, we’d all be healed by now.
I work holistically with the mind and body to address subconscious patterns held in the nervous system that block deeper connection.
In sessions, we focus on experiential learning.
This means that we practice relationship skills in real time together. Some of these are outside the boundaries of traditional therapies, like practicing flirting and giving and receiving touch.
Lastly, I am not trained to diagnose mental illnesses, or support people actively experiencing crisis, suicidal ideation, or psychosis.
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No. Although the things we work on together are sexual in nature, the purpose of our relationship is for your growth and to build skills for you to bring into your relationships.
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Somatics is an approach that believes the body is inherently intelligent, self healing, and ought to be treated with reverence. It differs from a typical cognitive approach to healing where the focus is the mind, thoughts, and reasoning.
This is not a new concept, as indigenous peoples had many ways to tune into the body’s guidance and move stuck emotions and stress through the body.
If you have ever know something logically but done the opposite, then you have experienced how the mind can be on board but the body may not have integrated that lesson yet.
Including the body in personal growth work, especially sexual growth is the most effective way to heal trauma, embody lessons we cognitively know, and feel whole.
The next steps to your erotic transformation
1. Book a call.
Choose a time and date that works best for your schedule. The first step can feel like the hardest, but I promise it’ll be worth those 20 minutes.
2. Share your hopes and dreams.
Our one-on-one conversation will provide valuable insights into where you are on your erotic journey, your strengths, challenges, and goals.
3. Receive an invitation.
My cutting edge private coaching program is available through invitation only. If I truly believe I can support your goals after our call, I’ll send you the next steps to begin your journey.