Hi, I’m Danie.
Somatic Sexologist ~Trauma Specialist~ Raging Lesbian
Through body-based trauma healing (and the perfect combination of depth and playfulness) I guide self-aware sapphics to get as comfortable with queer sex and intimacy as you are ordering your lavender oat milk latte- so you can feel more queer joy, connection, and pleasure.
BE HONEST WITH ME
Do you feel alive and free in your sex and intimacy after all your healing work?
Or are you settling for not-so-great intimacy that feels disconnected, uncomfortable or triggering because your self awareness isn’t translating to deep connection in the bedroom?
If you're craving secure and spicy connection with yourself and others, you don’t need more insight, you need to become feral in your intimacy. AKA, reconnect with your body’s primal, natural intelligence for healing, play, and pleasure that you thought trauma took away.
Struggling with intimacy isn’t shameful- it makes perfect sense.
You’re not broken.
You’re not weird.
You’re not alone.
You’re simply in a body that learned how to survive, not to enjoy.
And we can change that.
Sex and intimacy should be something you look forward to, so you can squeeze all the queer joy that’s possible from your one life.
When you experience your sexual self as a positive, pleasurable part of you, you won’t…
second guess if you deserve to feel good while they’re going down on you
play out stale hetero gender roles in your queer sex
have to slam 3 tequila shots to feel confident enough to hook up with a hottie.
Instead of feeling trapped by Comp. Het. and internalized homophobia, you’ll be comfortable in your queerness, your body and ready to go after what and who you want.
As a list lover with sticky notes all over my house, I’ve broken this transformation down into digestible steps for you.
The Feral Connection Method
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1. Relaxation
Feel comfortable in your body by using my Body Trust Process to feel more present and create ultimate relaxation and safety before, during and after sex and intimacy.
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2. Desire
Boost your libido by using my Pleasure Pathway to understand your erotic self deeply, feel worthy of feeling good, and reliably turn yourself on emotionally and physically whenever you want.
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3. Confidence
Express your sexual and emotional desires boldly with honesty and compassion so you can get what you want and become an amazing lover and partner with the help of my Expansive Communication Framework.
LET’S GET REAL
As a human, your body already has the innate ability for sexual healing and awakening. But, you may need a guide on this taboo journey. I’d love to be your co-conspirator.
Ready for change?
Your next steps are simple
APPLY
You’ll answer a few questions and schedule a call so we can get to know each other and I can understand what type of support you’re looking for.
RECEIVE YOUR INVITATION
If I think we’d be a great fit to work together, we’ll go over details of your own immersion and create a plan to reach your intimacy goals.
ENJOY THE SEX AND INTIMACY OF YOUR WILDEST DREAMS
You’ll build and refine intimacy skills that will change the way you relate to yourself and partner(s) forever.
Connection and pleasure are waiting for you on the other side <3
Transformation Stories <3
“You were so welcoming and put me at ease immediately. I really cannot believe how vulnerable I was able to be with you, because I just felt so deeply that you were safe. I really learned a lot.”
“My partner and I are closer and more in love than we’ve probably ever been. I also learned quite a bit about boundaries, and that its ok to stand up for myself in other relationships in my life.”
“The support and safeness you were able to create in our sessions unlocked something in me that was still locked up. I feel so proud, so accomplished, so free and vital and strong. I hope you know I cannot overstate my gratitude for the amount of difference you’ve made in my relationship and my life.”
ABOUT ME
I know how intimidating sexual healing can feel.
For years, I was quietly struggling with low libido, disordered eating, body image, and shame around my queerness and sexual self after sexual, religious and childhood trauma. I was aware of why I felt shame and shutdown in intimacy, but I didn’t know how to get the comfortable sex and deep intimacy I was craving.
Then, over years of profound healing and effort, I overcame severe dissociation, negative body image, married the woman of my dreams, and launched my business to help other queer women and afab folks rediscover pleasure after trauma.
As a Lesbian Somatic Sexologist & Trauma Specialist, of course our work is about sex. AND it's also about deepening your connection to yourself, having authentic and connected intimate relationships, and experiencing more queer joy and freedom in all aspects of your life- all through the gateway of your sexuality.
I believe connection is the whole point of life, and I’m here to help you soak in as much as you want. If you’re self aware but still disconnected, let’s talk and see what’s possible.
WANT A QUICK WIN?
Deeper connection and freedom after trauma without overwhelming your body.
You have plenty of practices.
You need to understand how your BODY has been trying to protect you from the deep intimacy you’re longing for.
That’s what this quiz is for.
Uncover your nervous system’s survival strategy and get simple yet powerful practices to help you feel safe in your body.
free, quick, insightful