Feel the closeness you’ve been craving in and out of the bedroom- without more healing homework.

Queer Intimacy Coaching for self-aware sapphics who’ve done the work on paper … but your body still feels shut down, and desire feels distant.

The Feral Connection Method guides you beyond safe to sensual — so you can finally experience the connection you crave without forcing, fixing, or faking.

I’m Danie, The Sapphic Sexologist — known for helping queer women and nonbinary folks dissolve intimacy blocks into deep, playful connection through private, trauma-informed and pleasure-led immersions.

Limited spots for 1:1 retreats are available now.

The smarter you are about your healing, the harder intimacy can feel…

You’re a pro at emotional work: You’ve unpacked your past, named the patterns, and regulate your nervous system like it’s your job.

But in the bedroom…

  • Those regulation tools make it harder to let go and surrender to pleasure

  • Your brilliant self-awareness turns into performance anxiety

  • Talking about sex feels more like a dreaded zoom meeting than a turn-on

  • Your libido has disappeared—and you’re tired of pretending that a five-minute breathwork or hard-to-pronounce supplement is going to bring it back

    …You’re next to someone you care about, you still feel that invisible wall — the one that keeps you from leaning in, relaxing, and letting the moment happen.

YOU'RE NOT BROKEN

YOU'RE NOT BROKEN

You’re just in a body that learned how to survive, not how to enjoy.

You’ve worked hard to understand yourself, to feel safer, to keep old pain from running the show. That matters. It’s the foundation.

But here’s the truth most practitioners won’t say: safety is the starting point, not the finish line.

You can feel calm and grounded … and still feel distant.
You can be regulated … and still not want to reach for someone’s hand.

Deep connection needs more.
It’s not about managing yourself harder — it’s about letting your body trust, soften, and open to connection again.

Imagine sitting across from someone you love and actually feeling your shoulders drop. Feeling warmth spread in your chest when they reach for your hand. Meeting their eyes without that flicker of hesitation.

That’s a skill you can learn — one sensation, one experience at a time. That’s exactly where The Feral Connection Method comes in.

The Feral Connection Method:

A framework to deep, passionate, lasting connection

The depth of your intimacy depends on how fully your body can actually feel—not just safety, but pleasure, desire, emotion, and instinct. True intimacy doesn’t come from insight alone. It comes from your animal body—the part of you that still remembers how to want, enjoy, and open before you learned to numb, shrink, and perform to survive.

The Feral Connection Method starts at safety—and takes you all the way into your animal body where pleasure, instinct, and connection naturally live-so intimacy stops feeling like a battle and starts feeling natural.

It’s a three-phase, pleasure-led, trauma-informed process I guide you through in private immersions:

Soften into real safety—so your muscles can relax instead of bracing.

Wake up your turn-on—reconnect with your body’s natural appetite for pleasure is every day moments, not just the bedroom.

Trust your instincts—hear and follow your body’s “yes” and “no” without second-guessing.

This is raw, body-based intimacy. Not “regulating harder” or “healing more” before you’re allowed to feel good.
Your body already knows what it wants. We’re just waking up the part of you that can feel it, ask for it, and take it in.

This is how we get there:

Phase 1: Relaxation

Feel comfortable in your body by learning to read your nervous system's cues so you can create internal safety whether you’re feeling rage, arousal, grief, or desire. Using the Body Trust Process, you’ll begin to release patterns of shutdown and start to feel at home in your body, maybe for the first time.

Phase 2: Desire

Boost your libido and nurture your erotic self by bringing pleasure back into every day moments. Explore your kinks, boundaries, attachment, and sensuality with curiosity, not shame. Map your unique Pleasure Pathway to reliably turn yourself on emotionally and physically whenever you want.

Phase 3: Confidence

Express your desires and emotions boldly by practicing real intimacy with me in real time. Using my Expansive Communication Framework, you’ll build embodied skills—flirting, boundary-setting, repair conversations, and asking for what you want—with honesty and curiosity, and zero pressure to get it “perfect.”

Begin your journey to embodied connection.

Not quite ready?

Deeper Connection & Pleasure After Trauma

Without pulling a hammy in a strange position or sounding like a therapy speak robot. 🤖

You don’t need more practices-

you need to understand how your body has been trying to protect you from the deep intimacy you’re longing for.

That’s what this decoder is for.

Uncover your body’s survival strategies and map out the path back to erotic freedom and real intimacy.

Free, quick, and insightful

Hi, I’m Danie

Certified Somatic Sexologist, Queer Pleasure Advocate, and founder of the Feral Connection Method.

After coming out in a straight marriage and a lifetime of trying to navigate intimacy with complex trauma, I created the Feral Connection Method for those who dare to embrace taboos and heal past pain to access pleasure and connection.

I specialize in helping self-aware sapphics like you heal trauma and create deeper connection through erotic embodiment—not bland instruction.

I believe connection is the whole point of life, and I’m here to help you soak in as much as you want.

no question too awkward…

  • “Somatic sexology is the meeting of somatics (focusing awareness through the body), with sexology (the scientific study of human sexuality).

    It is the merging of practices from time-tested traditions such as yoga, meditation and tantra, with cutting edge research in neuroscience, psychology and somatic learning theory.

    Somatic sexology develops ‘embodiment’, which is deeper presence, awareness and understanding of what is going on in your body and in sex. Embodiment releases body-mind restrictions that inhibit pleasure, and allows space for greater growth, choice and play.”

    If you have ever know something logically but done the opposite, then you have experienced how the mind can be on board but the body may not have integrated that lesson yet.

  • Nope! You’re in the right place if you’re a queer woman, femme, or afab human who has healed enough, but your bodies still feels hesitant around sex, intimacy, or erotic connection.

  • In our connection, I listening without judgment to what’s being said, and notice what your body is communicating something different than your words.

    You will learn how to listen to your body- meaning what triggers you, what helps you feel safe, and what turns you on.

    With this information, we step into real-time intimacy exercises—like boundary setting, flirting, touch, and repair conversations—with no pressure or performance.

    The goal isn’t to get anything “right” - its about building confidence in your ability to create fulfilling intimacy in your relationship(s).

    For full details, check out the retreat brochure.

  • Yes! I welcome whatever lights you up. I specialize in exploring power dynamics.

  • Nope! Sex coaching will help you develop a deeper connection with your body and yourself which unlocks more joy and pleasure in your life.

    It also prepares you to be a great partner if/when you get in a relationship.

  • Yes! No shame or judgment here. I aim to create a space where you feel safe to be yourself and share about your relationship(s) authentically.

  • That makes sense!

    You’re not alone. Feeling nervous is part of the territory. We start soft, slow, and anchored around what feels safe in your body. Over time, your system learns: erotic safety is possible.

  • Therapy gives insight. My work reawakens the body’s felt capacity for pleasure, desire, and erotic instinct.

    We don’t just unpack patterns—we practice rewiring them through practice and embodied presence, together.

    Also, I am not trained to diagnose mental illnesses, or support people actively experiencing crisis, suicidal ideation, or psychosis.

  • No. Although the things we work on together are intimate in nature, the purpose of our relationship and everything we practice together is for your growth and is intended to help you create satisfying relationships outside of our container.

The next steps to your FERAL transformation:

1. Apply.

We’ll spend 20 minutes mapping out what intimacy looks like for you.

2. Share your hopes and dreams.

I'll listen with curiosity, and we’ll build from there.

3. Receive your retreat invitation.

If I truly believe our goals are aligned after our call, you’ll be invited into a FERAL immersion. Either way, you’ll get clarity on how to connect deeper.

Connection and pleasure are waiting for you on the other side <3