Hey, I’m Danie
Somatic Sexologist ~Trauma Specialist~ Silly Goose
Through my Feral Connection Method (and the perfect combination of depth and playfulness) I’ll guide you to get as comfortable and excited about lesbian intimacy as you are ordering your lavender oat milk latte- so you can connect from your soul, not your trauma patterns.
BE HONEST WITH ME
Do you feel alive, free and connected in your sex and intimacy after all your healing work?
Or are you settling for not-so-great intimacy that feels disconnected, uncomfortable or triggering because your self awareness isn’t translating to deep connection in the bedroom?
If you're tired of the over-analysis and long to thrive in a safe and passionate connection, it’s time to let your body take the lead.
You’re not broken.
You’re not weird.
You’re not alone.
You’re simply in a body that learned how to survive, not to enjoy.
And we can change that.
There’s pressure to settle, especially when it comes to your own pleasure. But it’s ok to want more from your sex and intimacy.
When you experience your sexual self as a positive, pleasurable part of you, you won’t…
freeze when things heat up
struggle with a dead bedroom
say you could go the rest of your life without sex, while part of you longs to enjoy pleasure like every body else.
Instead of feeling defined by your trauma, struggling to stay present in sex or feeling trapped by internalized homophobia, you’ll feel comfortable in your body, deeply connected to partner(s), and excited to have sex.
This is what happens when you make your connections feral.
And don’t worry, feral doesn’t mean chaotic. It means reconnecting with your body’s natural intelligence for healing, play, and pleasure that you thought trauma took away.
As a list lover with sticky notes all over my house, I’ve broken this transformation down into digestible steps for you.
The Feral Connection Method: a proven approach that helps you feel comfortable in your body, access your natural arousal with joy, and build confidence in and out of the bedroom.
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1. Relaxation
Feel comfortable in your body by using my Body Trust Process to feel more present, embodied, and safe during sex so relaxation happens naturally.
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2. Desire
Rediscover your arousal by using my Pleasure Pathway to understand yourself deeply- from your eroticism to your attachment style- so you can reliably turn yourself on without shame whenever you want.
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3. Confidence
Express your sexual and emotional desires boldly with honesty and compassion so you can get what you want and become an amazing lover/partner with the help of my Expansive Communication Framework.
LET’S GET REAL
As a human, your body already has the innate ability for sexual healing and awakening. But, this taboo journey can be a mind-fuck on your own. I’d love to be your co-conspirator.
ABOUT ME
I know how intimidating sexual healing can feel.
For years, I was quietly struggling with low libido, disordered eating, fear of vulnerability, and shame around my sexuality after abuse and religious dogma. I was aware of why I felt shame and shutdown in intimacy, but I didn’t know how to get the comfortable sex and deep intimacy I was craving.
Then, over years of profound healing and effort, I overcame severe dissociation, negative body image, married the woman of my dreams, and launched my practice to help other queer folks rediscover pleasure after trauma.
As a Lesbian Somatic Sexologist & Trauma Specialist, of course our work is about sex. AND it's also about deepening your connection to yourself, having authentic and connected intimate relationships, and experiencing more queer joy and freedom in all aspects of your life- all through the gateway of your sexuality.
I believe connection is the whole point of life, and I’m here to help you soak in as much as you want. If you’re self aware but still disconnected, let’s talk and see what’s possible.
Ready for a change?
Your next steps are simple
APPLY
You’ll answer a few questions and schedule a call so we can get to know each other and I can understand what type of support you’re looking for.
RECEIVE YOUR INVITATION
If I think we’d be a great fit to work together, we’ll go over details of your own immersion and create a plan to reach your intimacy goals.
ENJOY THE SEX AND INTIMACY OF YOUR WILDEST DREAMS
You’ll build and refine intimacy skills that will change the way you relate to yourself and partner(s) forever.
Connection and pleasure are waiting for you on the other side <3
Transformation Stories <3
“You were so welcoming and put me at ease immediately. I really cannot believe how vulnerable I was able to be with you, because I just felt so deeply that you were safe. I really learned a lot.”
“My partner and I are closer and more in love than we’ve probably ever been. I also learned quite a bit about boundaries, and that its ok to stand up for myself in other relationships in my life.”
“The support and safeness you were able to create in our sessions unlocked something in me that was still locked up. I feel so proud, so accomplished, so free and vital and strong. I hope you know I cannot overstate my gratitude for the amount of difference you’ve made in my relationship and my life.”
WANT A QUICK WIN?
Deeper connection and freedom after trauma without overwhelming your body.
You have plenty of practices.
You need to understand how your BODY has been trying to protect you from the deep intimacy you’re longing for.
That’s what this quiz is for.
Uncover your nervous system’s survival strategy and get simple yet powerful practices to help you feel safe in your body.
free, quick, insightful