Experience your queer sexuality as a positive, pleasurable part of you-without overwhelming your body.
The Feral Immersion
4 months of 1:1 healing and intimacy skill building
A private container that strategically blends online coaching with an in-person retreat for your deepest transformation of trauma and shame into pleasure and connection.
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The reason we aren’t having mind blowing queer sex and intimacy right now?
TRAUMA
Trauma from homophobia, religious dogma, assault, abuse, purity culture and shame.
The thing is, queer joy has been minimized both intentionally by society and as a result of painful life experiences.
But the longer you deny yourself pleasure, the more queer joy you miss out on. And I don’t want you (or me!) to miss out one second longer.
You’ve Already Done SO Much Healing…
On your journey to embracing your queerness and finding self-acceptance, you’ve done more inner work than most.
You know your trauma.
You understand your triggers.
You can regulate your nervous system.
And yet… when it comes to intimacy, something still feels out of reach.
You’re not broken
You’re just in a body that learned how to survive, not how to enjoy.
Struggling with such a taboo topic can come with shame. But it’s not your fault that you haven’t learned the skills to heal your pain and embrace your pleasure! Most healing stops and insight, but I learned that reclaiming your sexual self and building deep intimacy requires more.
I know how heavy this can feel
I've felt the crippling shame around my queer desires, and my body has frozen and shutdown in the moment, even when I was with someone I loved.
You just want it to feel EASY-
to say no (or yes) to sex without guilt, to get turned on during a random Tuesday, to get lost in moment without flashbacks, to orgasm without pressure and shame, to feel confident in your body, to share your heart without worrying you’re “too much”, to connect without feeling panic.
I know firsthand the power that sexual healing can have over your self worth and relationships.
I was tired of trauma blocking my intimacy. So I learned how to work with my body, not against it.
Deeper connection to my body meant deeper connection in my relationsips.
After I came out in my mid-20’s and ended my hetero marriage, I was OVERWHELMED.
BUT my overwhelm with this newfound queer identity was laced with excitement about the possibility of what my life could be.
I was finally listening to what my body wanted.
Still, I couldn’t have sex unless I was drunk, had no idea how to talk about what I wanted, and couldn’t reliably orgasm
I thought I was broken.
More analysis more Instagram therapy accounts, more late night reddit rabbit holes. (tell me I’m not the only one…anybody?)
As a self proclaimed personal development junkie, I had no problem analyzing my childhood trauma, preaching nonviolent communication, and watching 7 videos in a row about attachment theory.
But intimacy felt so… complicated.
That’s when it hit me.
Deep intimacy isn’t about endless healing quests- it’s about remembering my wildness- the ability to let your body feel pleasure, desire, aliveness, and closeness- all the things I lost trauma took from me.
When I started connecting with my body, searching for my desire, I found rage, grief, resentment, and disappointment for all the ways my body was shamed, used and hurt. Both by myself and others.
So I took my sexual healing seriously.
I developed a compassionate, curious relationship with my body, and slowly my numbness transformed.
And guess what?
My body’s natural desire blossomed.
Once I finally allowed myself to feel and express the emotions I had shoved down for decades, I felt my body ignite.
I started to feel alive instead of numb.
And with that, my pleasure, my libido, my spark was coming back. My shame was transforming to confidence.
It was so weird feeling so mad and so turned on at the same time! But I was starting to feel it all, and that invisible plexiglass between me and other people began to melt away.
Now my life looks very different.
I’m no longer afraid of my triggers because I trust myself to take care of me, and to ask my partner for support too. I am confident in my body and my queerness. My wife and I have an incredible sex life, and a deeply secure, supportive emotional connection. I talk openly about what I want from my intimacy so casually like what movie to watch. My life feels full of pleasure, in and outside the bedroom.
That peace, pleasure and joy is what I want for every queer person on this planet.
IT’S THE FEELING I WANT FOR YOU.
You can learn to create deep connections that are spicy AND secure without scheduling sex or memorizing communication scripts.
But you may need a roadmap through this taboo territory.
I’ve got you.
The Feral Immersion
In your own private Feral Immersion, you’ll…
relax into touch instead of flinching
befriend your libido instead of battling it
Ask for what you want—without shame
Maintain sexual and emotional connection to your partner(s) (and/or yourself) for the long haul
Express your full range of emotions- from grief and range to turn on and pleasure.
Define clear boundaries and the confidence to voice them.
Initiate sex and intimacy in ways that feel authentic to you without freezing
Nurture respect for your body’s natural arousal rhythms instead of overriding or performing
Learn to receive pleasure without guilt or awkwardness
TLDR; Build a new baseline rooted in self-trust, embodied boundaries, and the capacity to meet intimacy with presence, not pressure.
All because you will heal and learn in the most efficient way possible- through real-time, positive experiences.
I take on a limited number of clients because of the depth of this container → Apply to secure your place.
This is for you if…
You freeze or panic when someone you’re into directs erotic attention toward you
You feel bad about yourself for not being able to enjoy sex
You feel uncomfortable looking at or touching your body
You have a voice in your head insisting you don’t deserve to feel good
You’re not sure what’s compulsory heterosexuality and what are your authentic desires
Your battle with feeling ‘queer enough’ inhibits your sexual confidence
You struggle to initiate sex because you don’t want to come off pressure-y or creepy.
You thought you had worked through your trauma… but it keeps showing up in the bedroom.
What to expect…
This isn’t a group workshop or a one-off coaching call.
It’s a 1:1 elevated experience that blends online sessions and an in person retreat for deep healing and total mastery of the intimacy skills you need most.
Over our time together, you’ll move through the full Feral Connection Method, tailored to your history and desires. This looks like:
Personalized sessions that move at your pace yet help you grow
Simple yet powerful exercises and practices to help you feel safe in your body
Intimacy skills ranging from moving through triggers and overwhelming feelings to feeling comfortable receiving pleasure
Integration support so these shifts carry into your daily life and relationships.
This isn’t about just treating yourself (although it is a high-quality experience). It’s about transforming your relationship with your body and those you love.
No prior experience is necessary, and it’s ok to be nervous! This immersion is designed to meet you wherever you are on your journey. We move at a pace that feels safe and supportive for you, with clear guidance and consent at every step.
DETAILS
FERAL
Immersion
When?
We’ll have weekly sessions at a time that works for us.
Where?
Our sessions will be online for the majority of our work, and the in-person retreat portion will be in Golden, Colorado.
(If you want one closer to your home, we can customize it!)
What’s included?
Month 1&2:
Laying The Foundation
Online coaching for us to practice building foundational skills and build rapport so you can get the most out of our time together in person.
Month 3:
In-Person Retreat, 3 day/3 night
You’ll get 10 hours of 1 on 1 expert coaching, touch therapy and guidance from me spread over 3 days. We’ll create a ‘relationship lab’ where we practice the skills you want to develop. Plus an option for daily sex-ed workshops.
Month 4:
Integration
Online integration sessions to help your new skills and transformation sink in at the deepest level. Expect custom practices for you to bring what you learned in our sessions into your daily life and get follow up support for whatever comes up.
How much?
For those ready to invest in connection filled with depth, excitement, and pleasure, the Feral Immersion offers 2 packages to fit your needs:
Designed to help you relax and fully immerse yourself in the experience.
Payment Plans
Sexual healing is important, no matter your financial situation. If you would have to choose between covering your basic needs and this program, this may not be the right time to invest.
If however, it is accessible with a payment plan, let’s talk and see what’s possible.
Our work together starts once 50% of the the cost has been paid.
This is NOT for you if…
you are looking to “get rid” of or bypass your emotions and just get surface level sex tips and techniques. (This is a deep dive into all things that block desire and pleasure.)
you are looking for a guru-type who has all the answers that will tell you what to do so you can blindly follow. (Your body is the ultimate guide here.)
you like to wait until you don’t feel nervous anymore to make big decisions. (A willingness to explore new territory even with nerves is essential to this work.)
BUT… if you’re done analyzing your intimacy blocks and ready to embody the connection you crave —this is where it happens.
On the outside, it looks like you’ve got it all together.
On the inside, the story is different.
You’re doing well in your career, you have great friends, but you long for more. You want to feel more connected to your erotic self, and partner(s). But it all feels so overwhelming.
The Feral Immersion is for those who are done settling for disconnection and numbness and are ready to feel excited about intimacy and feel good in their bodies.
No question is too awkward…
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That makes sense! The FERAL Immersion is a commitment of time, energy, and financial resources. If you feel the slightest pull of curiosity, APPLY and let’s see if it makes sense for us to work together. Nothing is locked in unless we both agree it sounds exciting!
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Therapy gives insight. My work reawakens the body’s felt capacity for pleasure, desire, and erotic instinct. We don’t just focus on safety, we go further into pleasure and desire.
We don’t typically spend much time analyzing or re-telling stories.
Instead of asking “why did this happen” our focus is on what to do next.
We practice rewiring old patterns through practicing intimacy skills together. Some of these are outside the realm of therapists, such as flirting, and learning how to stay present while giving and receiving touch.
Lastly, I am not trained to diagnose mental illnesses, or support people actively experiencing crisis, suicidal ideation, or psychosis.
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Nope! I work with all women and AFAB folks that are in same sex relationships.
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Yes! I welcome whatever lights you up. I identify as kinky myself, and enjoy supporting clients around power dynamics.
I have been in several non-monogamous relationships, though my current structure is conscious monogamy.
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Nope! Sex coaching will help you develop a deeper connection with your body and yourself which unlocks more joy and pleasure in your life.
It also prepares you to be a great partner if/when you get in a relationship.
In fact, many of my clients who are partnered choose to see me by themselves, and have still noticed significant improvement to their relationships.
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That makes sense!
You’re not alone. Feeling nervous is part of the territory. We go at your pace.
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No. Although the things we work on together are intimate in nature, the purpose of our relationship and everything we practice together is for your growth. Our work together takes place within strict boundaries, and has the specific goal of helping you create satisfying relationships outside of our container.
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“Somatic sexology is the meeting of somatics (focusing awareness through the body), with sexology (the scientific study of human sexuality).
It is the merging of practices from time-tested traditions such as yoga, meditation and tantra, with cutting edge research in neuroscience, psychology and somatic learning theory.
Somatic sexology develops ‘embodiment’, which is deeper presence, awareness and understanding of what is going on in your body and in sex. Embodiment releases body-mind restrictions that inhibit pleasure, and allows space for greater growth, choice and play.”
If you have ever know something logically but done the opposite, then you have experienced how the mind can be on board but the body may not have integrated that lesson yet.
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I’d love to work with you, and I understand the immersion format doesn’t fit for everyone. Right now, I’m pouring all of my energy and focus to the clients in my immersion containers because I’ve seen the power of transformation this burst of concentrated work can do for intimacy and healing.
When I offer other ways to work with me, I’ll announce it to my waitlist. If you want to stay up to date on my latest offerings, you can get on the waitlist .
Your body already knows how heal, want and enjoy sex and intimacy.
It’s time to let it lead.
You’ll answer a few questions and pick a time to connect so I can understand what kind of support you’re looking for.