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The Feral Intimacy Program

A deep, nuanced and playful 3 month 1:1 immersion that bends online sessions and an in person retreat to support sexual healing, pleasure and confidence.

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You’re self aware and logically know trauma or shame is impacting your intimacy…

so you’ve spent countless hours unpacking your experiences and relationship patterns in therapy, maybe taking a sexual healing course (or not because they seem too intense) and going down reddit rabbit holes at 2am trying to find out if lesbian bed death is real.

And it’s all helped, to a point. You now understand the impacts of purity culture, internalized homophobia and comp. het.

But when the moment comes, sex and intimacy still feels overwhelming.

This isn’t because you’re broken or you haven’t tried hard enough. You’ve just been taught to address your intimacy struggles at the cognitive level.

Staying in logic and information gathering is the easiest way to feel stuck in the bedroom when what you know isn’t translating to what you do.

That’s why inside the Feral Intimacy Program, we go beyond insight and work with your nervous system so you can…

  • Feel more comfortable and confident in your queer identity and your body. You flirt without second guessing if you’re being creepy, drop the performance and shyness in sex, and confidently teach your partners how to touch your body.

  • Learn to initiate sex in a way that feels inviting and flirty after a long, busy week. And your partner excitedly drops what they’re doing and runs to the bedroom with you, no matter how long you’ve been together.

  • Create a new relationship to your body where it’s no longer a battlefield of flinching, bracing, and tightening in survival mode. Instead of freezing up or having flashbacks when your parter touches you, she puts her hand on your thigh and you feel warmth spread throughout your body as you melt into their touch.

When you have the opportunity to actually practice intimacy skills within clear boundaries and with expert guidance, your body naturally rewires trauma patterns and connects to your authentic sexual expression so you can feel deep safety, pleasure, and confidence in intimacy. (aka what I call becoming feral. )

This is how knowledge turns into new ways of showing up intimately- more open, confident, passionate, and joyful.

This is the deep, nuanced, fun guidance I offer you in the Feral Intimacy Program.

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I already know this is what I’ve been missing!

What if you could get crystal clear on your desires and feel confident enough to ask for what you want?

Keep the spark alive past the 2 month mark?

Get rid of shame so you finally feel like enough- queer enough, worthy enough, just as you are?

Initiate sex and flirting with confidence and feel relaxed no matter the outcome?

WHEN YOUR NERVOUS SYSTEM HAS NEW EXPERIENCES OF SAFETY, CURIOSITY, AND PLEASURE, YOU BEGIN TO TRUST ON THE DEEPEST LEVEL THAT THOSE THINGS ARE STILL POSSIBLE FOR YOU, NO MATTER WHAT YOU’VE BEEN THROUGH.

Your desire blooms because you finally have feel present in your body and permission to be all of yourself without compartmentalizing.

No more feeling avoiding sex or using sex to avoid emotional intimacy out of fear, freezing the moment things heat up, or feeling weird for what turns you on. (trust me, I’ve heard it all.)

Let’s be so for real- if just talking about your sex and intimacy struggles solved them, everybody would be having the best sex ever right now.

The folks who create fulfilling sex and intimacy after trauma aren’t only gathering more insight, endlessly trying to “fix” their bodies. They see their body’s responses as intelligent, and seek out experiences that allow their bodies catch up to what their mind knows already- that sex and intimacy can be safe and fun.

All your self awareness has prepared you for this point. The Feral Immersion offers you the arena to practice and explore and rewire your patterns through interactive, experiential learning- aka the fastest way to wire new neural pathways- so you can stop thinking and talking in circles and actually learn to access the feelings you thought you lost- like desire, playfulness, curiosity, and sensuality.

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Limited spaces available because of the depth of this work.

THIS IS ABOUT MORE THAN SEX

Of course our work is about sex. AND it's also about deepening your connection to yourself, having authentic and connected intimate relationships, and experiencing more queer joy and freedom in all aspects of your life- all through the gateway of your sexuality.

Because trauma isn’t a life sentence.

I’m Danie, your guide through the taboo territories of trauma and pleasure.

 After struggling to navigate my sexuality, eating disorder, sexual abuse, religious shame and a hefty dose of internalized homophobia, I got tired of playing by rules that were never made for me. I (very messily) left my marriage to a man and started over.

With a bunch of determination and a lot of (dark) humor, I learned that trauma is not a life sentence. Once my sexual healing efforts expanded beyond the purely intellectual realm to include my body, my war with my body and sexuality finally ended.

Now, I am confident in my body and my queerness. My wife and I have an incredible sex life, and a deeply secure, supportive emotional connection. I talk openly about what I want from my intimacy so casually like what movie to watch. This is what I want for you too.

ALL THE DETAILS

3 moths of personalized expert support, broken down into phases for gentle yet sustainable transformation. A place to explore healing and sexuality without shame, pressure, or expectation.

  • For the first 2 months, we’ll have weekly online (or in person if you’re local) sessions that focus on building foundations of trust and connection, with your own body and between us. You’ll learn and refine skills like:

    • Working with your nervous system: tracking your triggers to understand your go to survival mode and how to support your body to feel more relaxed and present when overwhelm happens.

    • Explore your body’s yes and no: work with The Wheel Of Consent to understand where you’ve been enduring or tolerating, and understand your own boundaries in a more nuanced way.

    • Begin to get curious about your relationship patterns, attachment strategies, and how to shift from auto pilot patterns to more conscious relating.

  • 3 day in person pretreat in Denver, Colorado, USA. Or I can travel to you!

    The retreat is built based on your desires and goals, so each one is a little different. A custom retreat can include sexuality education and/or bodywork to explore things like:

    • finding out what turns you on with clarity

    • explore desires you may already have to learn more about the specifics

    • exploring the roots of shame holding you back from your full pleasure and desire potential

    • how to ask for what you want and actually receive it instead of checking out or getting stuck in your head

    • practice communicating: flirting with integrity, setting boundaries lovingly, and how to repair after conflict in ways that feel authentic and deepen connection.

    The retreat includes:

    ~lunch and snacks

    ~up to 5 hours a day of bodywork and/or sexuality education

    ~ 4 nights/3 days of accommodations. I’ll come to you each day. All you have to do is show up.

    The retreat does not include:

    ~travel expenses and other meals

    I’ll send all the planning details you need once we decide to work together.

  • After you return home from the retreat, we’ll meet twice for integration sessions. These are just as important as the foundation sessions, as they ensure your transformation on the retreat is integrated into your day to day life.

    I’ll answer any questions that come up and give you custom practices and resources to continue your sexuality journey once our time together is done, which may include:

    • book/podcast recommendations

    • practices to try with partners and on your own

    • assisting you in creating a routine or ritual of pleasure that feels sustainable

  • At the end of our last integration session, we’ll see if you feel like your goals have been met, or if you’d like to continue to deepen the work we’ve done.

    Some folks with complex trauma histories may want more support creating a safe, supportive relationship with their body and sexuality.

    There is no “right” timeline, as everyone is coming to this work with different experinces and goals.

    If you want to continue our work together, we’ll create a custom program.

THE FERAL INTIMACY PROGRAM INCLUDES

Weekly Sessions → Build safety and momentum

8 coaching sessions online or in person

01

Private Retreat → Go deeper with hands on learning without the distractions of everyday life

4 night/ 3 day in person private retreat with lunch and snacks

02

Integration Practices → Turn breakthroughs into lasting changes at home

Personalized at home exercises and resources

03

$3,190 × 1

pay in full

$200 discount

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$678 × 5

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“My partner and I are closer and more in love than we’ve probably ever been. I also earned a lot about boundaries and that it’s ok to stand up for myself in other areas of life too.”

- M., past client

Build the kind of intimacy that feels joyful instead of terrifying.

THIS IS FOR YOU IF…

  • You have a growth mindset and have spent time doing self reflection/personal growth/therapy and you feel ready to dedicate time toward sex and intimacy specifically.

  • You have outside support systems (like friends, family, partners, mentors practitioners, therapists, pets, nature, etc). This is deep work and having places you can feel supported outside our sessions is key.

  • You want a holistic, body based approach to sexual healing instead of one that prioritizes diagnosis and labels.

  • You’re done spiraling down reddit rabbit holes at 2am reading advice from strangers and you want a personalized support plan for your specific sexual struggles

  • You’re ready to be honest and stay curious about your experience.

THIS IS NOT FOR YOU IF…

  • You’re looking for surface level sex tips or advice

  • You expect change overnight

  • You don’t have anyone/anywhere to turn to for support outside sessions.

  • You aren’t open to being honest, receiving feedback or stepping outside your comfort zone

  • You are actively experiencing mental or physical crisis

  • You just want to “talk it out” and vent to someone without taking any steps to create new patterns

NO

AWKWARD

QUESTIONS

  • While whole body touch (yes, including genitals) is on the table, it is by no means required. Nothing has to happen and there is no agenda.

    All touch, if it happens, is done with your full consent, led by you, and done solely with your learning and growth in mind.

    Before any touch would happen, we spend ample time diving into consent and communicating boundaries, so you feel fully empowered to direct the sessions in ways that feel most helpful for you.

    And, there’s so much we can do where you can still experience benefits of touch based healing that doesn’t involve me touching you. For example, I can guide you to touch your own body, or we can stay in the realms of exploring “emotional touch”- the impact your words and body language have on another person. These emotional intimacy skills are so underrated!

  • Every session is unique and tailored to you. And there is a wide menu of options and practices that we may explore together, depending on your desires and goals.

    This may include practices like visualizations to explore your erotic mind, real time practice asking for what you want, flirting, setting boundaries, and repair conversations, or breathwork.

    It may also include touch, anywhere on the spectrum of educational to nurturing to exploring states of arousal and genital touch.

    Everything is done with your full, ongoing consent and within strict boundaries, including meremaining clothed at all times, any genital touch is one way (from me to you) and always done withgloves.

    Some examples for loose reference points include:

  • You don’t have to be! Again, your choice and consent is central in everything we do, or don’t do.

    There are times where we may be doing relationship skill building and education off the massage table, where you’ll be clothed.

    During bodywork sessions on the table, you are welcome to undress to the level of your comfort.

    I will remain clothed at all times.

  • A great question about boundaries! No. All interactions and touch are done solely for the purposes of your healing and education so that you can create more fulfilling intimacy outside our professional relationship.

  • Nope! I work with all women and femmes, and non-binary folks, though most of my clients are in or curious about sapphic relationship dynamics.

    If you’re an ally who is into my style, reach out and let’s see what’s possible!

  • Yes! I welcome whatever lights you up.

    I identify as kinky myself, and enjoy supporting clients around power dynamics.

    I have been in open relationships, though my current structure is conscious monogamy.

  • No. I’m happy to talk about payment plans that may work for you on our connection call.

“The support and safeness you were able to create in our sessions unlocked something in me that was still locked up. I feel so proud, so accomplished, so free and vital and strong. I hope you know I cannot overstate my gratitude for the amount of difference you’ve made in my relationship and my life.”

-Past client

THE CHOICE IS YOURS

Not everyone is ready for this level of sexuality work. Take time to let the words here sink in to see if the Feral Intimacy Program may be right for you. When you’re ready, apply below with no obligation or pressure.

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