Experience your queer sexuality as a positive, pleasurable part of you
without pulling a hammy in a weird sex position or sounding like a therapy speak robot.
The Feral Immersion is a 4 month, 1:1 collaborative container for self aware lesbians, queer women, and non binary folks ready to prioritize healing and deeper intimacy so your sex life is defined by joy and pleasure instead of trauma.
You know the reason you aren’t having mind blowing queer sex and intimacy right now is trauma.
Trauma from homophobia, religious dogma, assault, abuse, purity culture and shame. But as a certified late night researcher, you want to go from knowing why to actually doing things differently so intimacy feels free and fun.
You don’t need someone to give you more empathetic “Mmhmm”s and communication scripts. You need to work with your body- where healing and desire both take place.
You’ve already done soo much healing.
On your journey to embracing your queerness and finding self-acceptance, you’ve done more inner work than most. You know logically the walls you have up are no longer serving you.
And yet…
You freeze or panic when someone you’re into directs erotic attention toward you
You feel bad about yourself for not being able to enjoy sex
You feel uncomfortable looking at or touching your body
You have a voice in your head insisting you don’t deserve to feel good
You’re not sure what’s compulsory heterosexuality and what are your authentic desires
Your battle with feeling ‘queer enough’ inhibits your sexual confidence
You struggle to initiate sex because you don’t want to come off pressure-y or creepy.
You thought you had worked through your trauma… but it keeps showing up in the bedroom.
TL;DR You want more from your intimacy, but aren’t quite sure what that looks like or how to get it.
I know how heavy it can feel.
I've felt the crippling shame around my queer desires, and my body has frozen and shutdown in the moment, even when I was with someone I loved.
You just want it to feel EASY-
to say no (or yes) to sex without guilt
to get turned on during a random Tuesday
to get lost in moment without flashbacks
to orgasm without pressure and shame
to feel confident in your body
to share your heart without worrying you’re “too much”
to connect without feeling panic.
I’ve experienced firsthand the power that sexual healing can have over your self worth and relationships.
After I came out and ended my hetero marriage, trauma threw a wrench in my new life.
I was finally listening to what my body wanted.
Still, I couldn’t have sex unless I was drunk, had no idea how to talk about what I wanted, and couldn’t reliably orgasm.
I thought I was broken.
More analysis more Instagram therapy accounts, more late night reddit rabbit holes. (tell me I’m not the only one…anybody?)
As a self proclaimed personal development junkie, I had no problem analyzing my childhood trauma, preaching nonviolent communication, and watching 7 videos in a row about attachment theory.
But intimacy felt so… complicated.
After years of trying to heal abuse and shame and still coming up short, I knew I was missing something.
Then it hit me.
Deep intimacy and great sex aren’t about endless healing quests-
it’s about working with my body to remember my primal intelligence, my body’s natural ability to feel and process emotion, to move out of dissociation.
When I started connecting with my body, searching for my desire, I found rage, grief, resentment, and disappointment for all the ways my body was shamed, used and hurt. Both by myself and others.
So I took my sexual healing seriously.
I developed a compassionate, curious relationship with my body, and slowly my numbness transformed.
And guess what?
My body’s natural desire blossomed.
Once I finally learned how to safely feel and express the emotions I had shoved down for decades, I felt my body ignite.
I started to feel alive instead of numb.
And with that, my pleasure, my libido, my spark was coming back. My shame was transforming to confidence.
That invisible plexiglass between me and other people began to melt away.
Now my sex life (and everything else) looks completely different.
I’m no longer afraid of my triggers because I trust myself to take care of me, and to ask my partner for support too. I am confident in my body and my queerness. My wife and I have an incredible sex life, and a deeply secure, supportive emotional connection. I talk openly about what I want from my intimacy so casually like what movie to watch. My life feels full of pleasure, in and outside the bedroom.
That peace, pleasure and joy is what I want for every queer person on this planet.
It’s the feeling I want for you.
If you want it too, I’ve got good news.
[but first some cute pictures of me and my wife :) ]
Your body already knows how to heal trauma and feel pleasure.
You can tap into it’s natural intelligence to create deep connections that are spicy AND secure without scheduling sex or memorizing communication scripts.
But you may need a roadmap to cut through the layers of shame and conditioning.
Lucky for you, I’ve got just the thing.
The Feral Immersion
Everything I learned through years of painful, awkward trial and error + professional study wrapped up in your own private immersion, so you can shortcut to thriving queer intimacy and…
Relax into touch instead of flinching
Befriend your libido instead of battling it
Ask for what you want—without shame
Maintain sexual and emotional connection to your partner(s) (and/or yourself) for the long haul
Express your full range of emotions- from grief and range to turn on and pleasure.
Define clear boundaries and the confidence to voice them.
Initiate sex and intimacy in ways that feel authentic to you without freezing
Nurture respect for your body’s natural arousal rhythms instead of overriding or performing
Learn to receive pleasure without guilt or awkwardness
TLDR; Build a new baseline rooted in self-trust, embodied boundaries, and the capacity to meet intimacy with presence, not pressure.
All because you will heal and learn in the most efficient way possible- through real-time, positive experiences.
I take on a limited number of clients because of the depth of this container → Apply to secure your place.
What to expect…
A private, customized, 1:1 experience for deep healing and total mastery of the intimacy skills you want most.
Over our time together, you’ll move through the full Feral Connection Method, tailored to your history and desires. Practically, this looks like:
Simple yet powerful exercises and practices to help you feel safe in your body
Intimacy skills ranging from moving through triggers and overwhelming feelings to feeling comfortable receiving pleasure
Integration support so these shifts carry into your daily life and relationships.
Prioritizing your healing can feel selfish. This transformation not only changes how you relate to your own body, but also everyone you love.
No prior experience is necessary, and it’s ok to be nervous! This immersion is designed to meet you wherever you are on your journey. We move at a pace that feels safe and supportive for you, with clear guidance and consent at every step.
DETAILS!
WHAT’S INCLUDED
Month 1&2: Laying The Foundation
Online coaching for us to practice building foundational skills and build rapport so you can get the most out of our time together in person.
Month 3: Building Intimacy Skills
If you choose the hybrid support option, you’ll get an in person retreat that includes 3 days of 1 on 1 expert coaching, touch therapy and guidance from me to reach your intimacy goals. We’ll create a ‘relationship lab’ where we practice the skills you want to develop. Plus 3 IRL sex-ed workshops.
If you choose the online support option, we will explore and build intimacy skills that feel most relevant to you online.
Month 4: Integration
Online integration sessions to help your new skills and transformation sink in at the deepest level. Expect custom practices for you to bring what you learned in our sessions into your daily life and get follow up support for whatever comes up.
WHEN
We’ll have weekly sessions at a time that works for us.
WHERE
Our sessions will be online. If you choose the hybrid option, the in-person retreat portion will be in Golden, Colorado.
(If you want one closer to your home, we can customize it! Let’s talk.)
For those ready to invest in connection filled with depth, excitement, and pleasure, the Feral Immersion offers 2 packages to fit your needs:
FoundationsPackage
Online
4 months of 1:1 support:
12 online coaching sessions
3 days of in person coaching
3 IRL sex ed workshops
lunch and snacks provided
shuttle to and from airport
option for additional healing and grounding activities from vetted practitioners
$3,150
MOST
POPULAR
Pleasure Package
Hybrid
4 months of 1:1 support:
10 online coaching sessions PLUS
3 days of in person coaching
3 IRL sex ed workshops
lunch and snacks provided
shuttle to and from airport
option for additional healing and grounding activities from vetted practitioners (yoga, sound healing, etc)
$4,200
Sexual healing is important, no matter your financial situation. If you would have to choose between covering your basic needs and this program, this is not the time to invest!
If however, it is accessible with a payment plan, let’s talk and see what’s possible.
Our work together starts once 50% of the the cost has been paid.
Payment Plans
This is not for you if…
you are looking to “get rid” of or bypass your emotions and just get surface level sex tips and techniques. (This is a deep dive into all things that block desire and pleasure.)
you are looking for a guru-type who has all the answers that will tell you what to do so you can blindly follow. (Your body is the ultimate guide here.)
you like to wait until you don’t feel nervous anymore to make big decisions. (A willingness to explore new territory even with nerves is essential to this work.)
BUT… if you’re done analyzing your intimacy blocks and ready to embody the connection you crave —this is where it happens.
You’re doing well in your career, you have great friends, you seem confident. But on the inside you feel isolated, alone, and disconnected from your own body.
You want to feel more connected to your erotic self, and partner(s). But it all feels so overwhelming.
The Feral Immersion is for those who are done tolerating disconnection and numbness and are ready to feel good in their bodies.
On the outside, it looks like you’ve got it all together.
On the inside, the story is different.
no awkward questions…
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That makes sense! Feeling nervous is part of the territory. The FERAL Immersion is a commitment of time, energy, and financial resources. If you feel the slightest pull of curiosity, APPLY and let’s see if it makes sense for us to work together. Nothing is locked in unless we both agree it sounds exciting!
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Therapy typically focuses on the why- analyzing the past and offering insightIn our work, instead of asking “why did this happen” our focus is on what to do next. It’s for the people that say I know WHY I’m struggling but I still don’t know how to move forward in my present relationships.
We practice rewiring old patterns through practicing intimacy skills together. Some of these are outside the realm of therapists, such as touch therapy and flirting skills.
Lastly, I am not trained to diagnose mental illnesses, or support people actively experiencing crisis, suicidal ideation, or psychosis.
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Nope! I work with all women and AFAB folks that are in or curious about same sex relationships.
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Yes! I welcome whatever lights you up. I identify as kinky myself, and enjoy supporting clients around power dynamics.
I have been in multiple non-monogamous relationships, though my current structure is conscious monogamy.
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Nope! Sex and intimacy don’t just exist inside partnerships. You are and will be your longest relationship, and sex coaching will help you develop a deeper connection with your body and yourself. This unlocks more joy and pleasure in your life no matter who's in it.
It also prepares you to be a great partner if/when you get in a relationship.
In fact, many of my clients who are partnered choose to see me by themselves, and have still noticed significant improvement to their relationships.
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No. Although the things we work on together are intimate in nature, the purpose of our relationship and everything we practice together is for your growth. Our work together takes place within strict boundaries, and has the specific goal of helping you create satisfying relationships outside of our container.
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“Somatic sexology is the meeting of somatics (focusing awareness through the body), with sexology (the scientific study of human sexuality).
It is the merging of practices from time-tested traditions such as yoga, meditation and tantra, with cutting edge research in neuroscience, psychology and somatic learning theory.
Somatic sexology develops ‘embodiment’, which is deeper presence, awareness and understanding of what is going on in your body and in sex. Embodiment releases body-mind restrictions that inhibit pleasure, and allows space for greater growth, choice and play.”
If you have ever know something logically but done the opposite, then you have experienced how the mind can be on board but the body may not have integrated that lesson yet.
Your body already knows how heal, desire and enjoy sex and intimacy.
It’s time to let it lead.
You’ll answer a few questions and pick a time to connect so I can understand what kind of support you’re looking for.