Feral Immersion
A 4 month, 1:1 program for self aware lesbians and queer femmes dying to find their inner lovergirl and freak after trauma.
You know logically the walls you have up are no longer serving you, especially when it comes to intimacy. And yet…
You freeze or panic when things start to enter erotic territory
You enjoy sex for the first 2 months then lose interest
You can’t seem to shake the shame about your body and sexual self
It feels easier to avoid certain levels of intimacy than to get triggered again
You’re not sure what your authentic desires are and what’s compulsory heterosexuality
You struggle to initiate sex because your desire feels predatory or burdensome
Your battle with feeling ‘queer enough’ drains your confidence in relationships
You want more from your intimacy, but aren’t quite sure what that looks like or how to get it.
It’s time to go beyond analyzing and understanding your pain
As a certified late night researcher who could write a thesis on your childhood trauma (or maybe even a coach or therapist yourself) you want to go from understanding your intimacy struggles to actually doing things differently so intimacy feels free, connected and fun.
You don’t need someone to give you more empathetic “Mmhmm”s or insight about your past. You need to feel experiences of safety, confidence, and desire in your body.
You just want it to feel EASY-
to say no (or yes) to sex without guilt
to share your heart without worrying you’re “too much”
to have a connection that’s hot and deep
to get lost in moment without flashbacks
to orgasm without pressure and shame
to feel confident in your desires and erotic expression
Good news:
Your body already knows how to heal trauma and feel pleasure.
You can tap into it’s natural intelligence to create deep connections that are hot AND deep without enduring sex or spending 5 more years analyzing your trauma.
But you may need a roadmap to cut through the layers of shame and conditioning. That’s where I come in.
The Feral Immersion
Experience the Feral Connection Method in your own private immersion, so you can shortcut to thriving queer intimacy and…
Relax into touch instead of flinching
Befriend your libido instead of battling it
Ask for what you want—without shame
Maintain sexual and emotional connection to your partner(s) for the long haul
Express your full range of emotions- from grief and range to turn on and pleasure.
Define clear boundaries and the confidence to voice them.
Initiate sex and intimacy in ways that feel authentic to you without freezing
Nurture respect for your body’s natural arousal rhythms instead of overriding or performing
Learn to receive pleasure without guilt or awkwardness
TLDR; Build a new baseline for how you show up in relationships that’s rooted in trusting yourself, embodying your boundaries, and knowing how to flow between your inner freak and lovergirl.
I take on a limited number of clients because of the depth of this container → Apply to secure your place.
What to Expect
A private, customized, experience where you have space to explore your sexual self without shame, pressure, or judgement.
Months 1&2: Laying The Foundation
We build a foundation (or strengthen the one you already have) of awareness and trust in your body as we map out your resources, triggers, and what your body needs to feel safe in connection through 8 sessions. (online or in person in Denver, CO)
Month 3: Exploring the Erotic
Understand your erotic mind, unravel blocks and shame around what turns you on, learn how to communicate your desires, and get optional hands on practice of intimacy skills during your 3 day in person retreat.
This IRL work has been described as “10 years of therapy packed into a long weekend.” Located in Golden, Colorado or a location of your choice.
Month 4: Integration
Support after the retreat to help your new skills and transformation sink in at the deepest level. Expect custom practices for you to bring what you learned in our sessions into your daily life and get follow up support for whatever comes up. 2 sessions online or in person in Denver, CO
Investment: $4,200*
*payment plans and scholarships for BIPOC folks are available.
This is not for you if…
you are looking to “get rid” of or bypass your emotions and just get surface level sex tips and techniques.
(This is a deep dive into all things that block desire and pleasure.)
you are looking for a guru-type who has all the answers that will tell you what to do so you can blindly follow
(Your body is the ultimate guide here.)
you like to wait until you don’t feel nervous anymore to make big decisions.
(A willingness to explore new territory even with nerves is essential to this work.)
BUT… if you’re done analyzing your intimacy blocks and ready to embody the connection you crave … this is where it happens.
MEET YOUR GUIDE
I know how intimidating sexual healing can feel.
For years, I was silently struggling with low libido, disordered eating, dissociation, and shame around my sexuality after abuse and religious dogma. I was aware of why I was struggling, but I didn’t know how to get the comfortable sex and deep intimacy I was craving.
Then, with a TON of dedication (and laughter) I rediscovered my pleasure after trauma.
I believe connection is the whole point of life, and I’m here to help you soak in as much as you want.
If you’re self aware but still disconnected, let’s talk and see what’s possible.
no awkward questions…
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That makes sense! Feeling nervous is part of the territory. The FERAL Immersion is a commitment of time, energy, and financial resources. If you feel the slightest pull of curiosity, APPLY and let’s see if it makes sense for us to work together. Nothing is locked in unless we both agree it sounds exciting!
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During the in person retreat, you’ll receive daily coaching, lunch, and snacks. :)
You’ll be responsible for 4 nights of accommodations and travel.
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Therapy typically focuses on the why- analyzing the past and offering insightIn our work, instead of asking “why did this happen” our focus is on what to do next. It’s for the people that say I know WHY I’m struggling but I still don’t know how to move forward in my present relationships.
We practice rewiring old patterns through practicing intimacy skills together. Some of these are outside the realm of therapists, such as touch therapy and flirting skills.
Lastly, I am not trained to diagnose mental illnesses, or support people actively experiencing crisis, suicidal ideation, or psychosis.
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Nope! I work with all women and AFAB folks that are in or curious about same sex relationships.
If you don’t identify as queer but resonate with my style, reach out and let’s see what’s possible!
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Yes! I welcome whatever lights you up. I identify as kinky myself, and enjoy supporting clients around power dynamics.
I have been in multiple non-monogamous relationships, though my current structure is conscious monogamy.
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Nope! Sex and intimacy don’t just exist inside partnerships. You are and will be your longest relationship, and sex coaching will help you develop a deeper connection with your body and yourself. This unlocks more joy and pleasure in your life no matter who's in it.
It also prepares you to be a great partner if/when you get in a relationship.
In fact, many of my clients who are partnered choose to see me by themselves, and have still noticed significant improvement to their relationships.
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No. Although the things we work on together are intimate in nature, the purpose of our relationship and everything we practice together is for your growth. Our work together takes place within strict boundaries, and has the specific goal of helping you create satisfying relationships outside of our container.
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“Somatic sexology is the meeting of somatics (focusing awareness through the body), with sexology (the scientific study of human sexuality).
It is the merging of practices from time-tested traditions such as yoga, meditation and tantra, with cutting edge research in neuroscience, psychology and somatic learning theory.
Somatic sexology develops ‘embodiment’, which is deeper presence, awareness and understanding of what is going on in your body and in sex. Embodiment releases body-mind restrictions that inhibit pleasure, and allows space for greater growth, choice and play.”
If you have ever know something logically but done the opposite, then you have experienced how the mind can be on board but the body may not have integrated that lesson yet.
On the outside, it looks like you’ve got it all together.
On the inside, the story is different.
You’re doing well in your career, you have great friends, you’re on top of your self-care and seem confident. But on the inside you feel isolated, alone, and disconnected from your own body and in your relationships.
You want to feel more connected to your erotic self, and partner(s). But it all feels so overwhelming.
The Feral Immersion is for those who are done tolerating disconnection and numbness and are ready to feel good in their bodies.
there is never a perfect time
Prioritizing your sexual healing and pleasure can feel selfish. Along with your personal quality of life improving, the change doesn’t stop there. When you are able to reliably access and accept pleasure in your own body, you create an internal well of energy and power to continue showing up for people and causes you care about. Black Queer Activist Audre Lorde has paved the way for this conversation since the ‘70’s.
No prior experience is necessary, and it’s ok to be nervous! This immersion is designed to meet you wherever you are on your journey. We move at a pace that feels supportive for you, with clear guidance and consent at every step.
You’ll answer a few questions and pick a time to connect so we can see if working together is a great fit.