Build deeper connection after trauma.
Somatic Sex Coaching for queer women and AFAB folks to heal past pain, deepen intimacy, and reconnect with pleasure.
With my Feral Connection Method, I’ll guide you from shut down and disconnected into finally feeling safety, pleasure, and deep connection— in and out of the bedroom.
Danie Bergstrom. Queer Certified Somatic Sexologist.
Those with the deepest knowledge of their trauma often have the hardest time connecting intimately…
🦋 When you have a long list of coping tools to mange your emotions, it’s easy to over-control your impulses—
Making initiating feel awkward and your desire inconsistent.
🦋 When you are so practiced at introspection, it’s easy to get stuck in your head, analyzing the moment instead of being fully IN IT—
Hello, performance anxiety, pressure, and fear of rejection
🦋 When you know all about your trauma patterns inside and out, it’s easy to trip and fall into a shame spiral when they still show up—
Sometimes it feels easier to shut down the erotic part of you than to face all the emotions around it.
…In short, the more self aware you are, the harder intimacy can feel. But it doesn’t have to stay this way.
This isn’t about more “fixing” yourself-
because you’re not broken
It’s about reconnecting with your animal body.
And thats why the Feral Connection Method works so quickly.
Let’s talk about what’s keeping you stuck- and what’s possible
The Feral Connection Method
Ttrue healing isn’t just about talking- it happens through the body.
The Feral Connection Method moves beyond venting and analyzing. Instead, we work with the trauma still held in your nervous system- creating blocks that make sex, intimacy, and connection feel out of reach.
You’ll learn how to reconnect with your animal body— the wild, instinctual, messy, erotic, playful self that still lives under the layers of shutdown and shame.
Healing doesn’t have to be heavy. The more pleasure you can feel, the more you can heal.
This isn’t about fixing or hacking your nervous system. It’s about connecting to who you are at your core, beyond the ways trauma taught you to shrink — and reclaiming the joy, connection, and aliveness that’s always been yours.
I’ll give you the exact steps:
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Relaxation
Feel more comfortable in your body by expressing your full range of emotions, from rage to arousal. Use the Body Trust Process to read your body’s feedback and work with your nervous system so you can identify your resources and triggers and become empowered to create feelings of relaxation, presence and safety for yourself before, during, and after intimacy.
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Desire
Boost your libido by bringing your natural erotic energy out of the bedroom and into your daily life, inviting presence and sensuality to small moments. Keep the spark alive by exploring your desires, kinks, boundaries and attachment so you can create an outline to access your arousal whenever you want. I call this your Pleasure Pathway.
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Confidence
Feel skilled at deep intimacy as we go beyond talking and actively practice relationship skills together. We co-create an authentic, therapeutic connection where you will embody intimacy skills like communicating boundaries, desires and flirting with honesty, compassion and curiosity using Playful Practice in my Expansive Communication System.
LET’S WORK TOGETHER:
Choose your own trauma-informed, pleasure centered coaching adventure.
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FERAL PRIVATE RETREAT:
If you want your intimacy to feel playful, alive, and connected, your healing has to have those elements too!
We work through each of the three phases of my Feral Connection Method for the most effective and enjoyable transformation in relationship with your body, mind, and others.
This is for you if…
>You have a hunch about what is blocking your intimacy, and you’re looking for real skills to change, not just more information
>you catch yourself performing or shutting down in intimacy
>you’re busy and want the most efficient intimate growth possible
What To Expect
+Restore trust in touch and closeness after trauma
+Rebuild connection without shame or fear
+Relearn sensual expression through trauma-informed practices
+Create magnetism and an open, playful, and curious approach to sex
+Build a positive relationship with your body and gain self confidence
+Use my Pleasure Pathway to find out your deepest turn ons and embrace them without judgement and internalized homophobia
+Develop emotional intimacy skills to share honestly and compassionately about anything so you can feel close even when the clothes are on.
Get more details below.
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INTIMACY CHECK-UP:
A one-off session to dive into what’s got you knee deep in the Reddit rabbit holes at 2am.
This is for you you if…
>You’re a new client, perhaps a “test it out” type of person, who wants to experience a session with me before committing to the FERAL private retreat.
>You’re returning client who wants a dose of real time support around a specific struggle.
Available Offline in Denver, Colorado or Online
Investment: $110
What To Expect
+Shame free, non judgmental space to be heard and understood
+Understand the root of your intimacy struggles
+Get a personalized next step to get you closer to connection right after our call!
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That makes sense! You know trauma is affecting your sex and intimacy, and you want to learn as much as you can and get simple steps to make a difference TODAY. Check out this free masterclass where I break it down into 3 steps.
not quite ready to work together?
Get more passion and connection after trauma
Without pulling a hammy in a strange position or sounding like a therapy speak robot. 🤖
This free masterclass breaks down the system that will help you gently heal trauma so you can connect deeper in and out of the bedroom.
After ending a straight marriage and a lifetime of trying to navigate intimacy with complex trauma, I created the Feral Connection Method for those who dare to embrace taboos and heal past pain to access pleasure and connection.
I specialize in working with lesbians and sapphics living with complex trauma. You deserve to reconnect with pleasure and trust.
I believe love and human connection is the whole point of life, and I’m here to help you soak in as much as you want.
Meet Danie
Certified Somatic Sexologist, Founder of the Feral Connection Method, and Eternal Optimist
No question is too awkward…
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“Somatic sexology is the meeting of somatics (focusing awareness through the body), with sexology (the scientific study of human sexuality).
It is the merging of practices from time-tested traditions such as yoga, meditation and tantra, with cutting edge research in neuroscience, psychology and somatic learning theory.
Somatic sexology develops ‘embodiment’, which is deeper presence, awareness and understanding of what is going on in your body and in sex. Embodiment releases body-mind restrictions that inhibit pleasure, and allows space for greater growth, choice and play.”
If you have ever know something logically but done the opposite, then you have experienced how the mind can be on board but the body may not have integrated that lesson yet.
Including the body in personal growth work, especially sexual growth is the most effective way to heal trauma, embody lessons we cognitively know, and feel whole.
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Nope! Lesbian, bisexual, questioning, pansexual ... if you're a queer woman (cis and trans) or afab human, you’re in the right place.
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Everyone comes to sex coaching for their own reasons, but the general way we approach intimacy struggles is similar.
We will focus on peeling back the layers of protective strategies and conditioning you’ve collected over the years that are blocking deeper intimacy and desire.
You will learn how to listen to your body- meaning what triggers you, what helps you feel safe, and what turns you on.
With this information, we practice intimacy skills together like relationship repair, setting boundaries, and flirting so you can build confidence in your ability to create fulfilling intimacy in your relationship(s).
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Yes! I welcome whatever lights you up. I specialize in exploring power dynamics.
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Nope! Sex coaching will help you develop a deeper connection with your body and yourself which unlocks more joy and pleasure in your life.
It also prepares you to be a great partner if/when you get in a relationship.
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Yes! No shame or judgment here. I aim to create a space where you feel safe to be yourself and share about your relationship(s) authentically.
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That makes sense! Its one of the most taboo topics. Rest assured we will move at your pace and create our sessions so that you will feel comfortable and get the most out of them.
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I work holistically with the mind and body to address subconscious patterns held in the nervous system that block deeper connection.
In sessions, we focus on experiential learning.
This means that we practice relationship skills in real time together. Some of these are outside the boundaries of traditional therapies, like practicing flirting and giving and receiving touch.
Lastly, I am not trained to diagnose mental illnesses, or support people actively experiencing crisis, suicidal ideation, or psychosis.
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No. Although the things we work on together are intimate in nature, the purpose of our relationship and everything we practice together is for your growth and is intended to help you create satisfying relationships outside of our container.
If you’re done feeling disconnected in intimacy, take the next steps to your feral transformation:
1. Book your call.
Choose a time and date that works best for your schedule. We’ll talk and see if we each feel excited about working together. The first step can feel like the hardest, but I promise it’ll be worth those 20 minutes.
2. Share your hopes and dreams.
In our one-on-one conversation I’ll listen to your challenges and goals with curiosity and compassion. Then I’ll provide clarity on how I can help you reach them.
3. Receive an invitation.
My cutting edge private retreat is available through invitation only. If I truly believe our goals are aligned after our call, I’ll send you the next steps to begin your journey. Either way, you’ll get clarity what to do next.