Is Self-Awareness Slowing Down Your Sexual Healing?

Attend your own Feral Immersion- Go Beyond Understanding Your Pain and Reconnect to Pleasure

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Choose between a 1 or 3 day in person, one on one immersion where you can let go of life distractions and focus on yourself with practices that are trauma informed, and pleasure centered.

What People Are Saying

“My partner and I are closer and more in love than we’ve probably ever been.

I also learned quite a bit about boundaries, and that its ok to stand up for myself in other relationships in my life.”

“The support and safeness you were able to create in our sessions unlocked something in me that was still locked up.

I feel so proud, so accomplished, so free and vital and strong. I hope you know I cannot overstate my gratitude for the amount of difference you’ve made in my relationship and my life.”

“You were so welcoming and put me at ease immediately.

I really cannot believe how vulnerable I was able to be with you, because I just felt so deeply that you were safe. I really learned a lot.”

What You’ll Get In Your Immersion

  • FOCUS: building a foundation of trust between us, and between you and your own body so you can get the most out of our time in person.

    We may focus on building intimacy skills such as:

    • working with triggers/anxiety around sex to feel more present

    • turning your focus inward to find out what your body is truly asking for

    • understanding your relationship and attachment patterns so you can shift from auto pilot connecting to intentional intimacy.

  • FOCUS: pleasure

    5-6 hours a day, with breaks and lunch provided.

    We have the opportunity to explore the power of touch for your healing and growth. But nothing has to happen! Your immersion is custom built to suit you, and it may include

    -self-touch (you to you)

    -practitioner touch (me to you)

    -no physical touch of any kind, and we explore “emotional touch” or the impact your presence has in a connection, and how to refine communication skills.

    This can support you in goals like:

    • finding out what turns you on with clarity and let go of shame

    • asking for touch you want and actually receive it instead of checking out or getting stuck in your head

    • processing stuck emotions through the body so you can access more pleasure

    • practicing communicating: flirting with integrity, setting boundaries lovingly, and how to repair after conflict in ways that feel authentic and deepen connection.

    *For Denver Locals:

    You may choose to spread out the immersion hours over 4 weeks if preferred.

  • FOCUS: Integration

    Ensure your transformation on the retreat is integrated into your day to day life with 2 integration sessions.

    I’ll answer any questions that come up and give you custom practices and resources to continue your sexuality journey once our time together is done, which may include:

    • book/podcast recommendations

    • practices to try with partners and on your own

    • assisting you in creating a routine or ritual of pleasure that feels sustainable

  • FOCUS: Checking In

    At the end of our last integration session, we’ll see if you feel like your goals have been met, or if you’d like to continue to deepen the work we’ve done.

    Some folks with complex trauma histories may want more support creating a safe, supportive relationship with their body and sexuality.

    There is no “right” timeline, as everyone is coming to this work with different experinces and goals.

    If you want to continue our work together, we’ll create a custom plan together.

“I’ve worked on this with at lease 3 other practitioners and this is the first time I’ve felt a shift!”

-Z. , past client

PUT ALL THIS IS A VSL:

You’re super self aware and logically know trauma or shame is impacting your intimacy…

so you’ve spent countless hours unpacking your experiences and relationship patterns in therapy, maybe taking a sexual healing course (or not because they seem too intense) and going down reddit rabbit holes at 2am trying to find out if lesbian bed death is real.

And it’s all been helpful. You now understand the impacts of purity culture, internalized homophobia and comp. het. You can name your trauma patterns: “I”m a people pleaser.” “I dissociate.”

You’ve put in all this effort because you not only want to feel good in your body, but also want to show up for the people and relationships you care about. You have an inkling there is MORE to sex and intimacy, even if you don’t exactly know how to get there.

And yet, when it comes to sexual situations, it feels like you body is betraying you because you still dissociate, avoid them, or freeze.

This isn’t because you’re broken or you haven’t tried hard enough. You’ve just been taught how to understand your intimacy struggles. But knowing why you struggle doesn’t always help you change what happens in your body, especially in intimate situations where you’re feeling vulnerable, triggered, or turned on. (or all three!)

It’s like riding a bike- you can read books about how to do it and logically understand the mechanisms, but you don’t really know how to do it until you get on the bike and feel it in real time.

That’s why in the Feral Intimacy Program, we go beyond analyzing your past and create a ‘practice arena’ where you can experience and practice the things you want to be able to do in intimacy, like

  • feel safer in your body so you stay present instead of checking out when you receive touch

  • relax tension in your body and/or genitals

  • learn to flirt without the paralyzing fear of being creepy or getting stuck in your head wondering about her response

  • exploring and sharing your desires without shame

  • notice what your body wants and communicate it in real time

  • share your boundaries in ways that strengthen connection

Instead of talking about the kind of intimacy you want, you get to practice these things in a supportive, consent based and trauma informed environment. You start collecting experiences that are different from your old patterns, like staying present, slowing down to notice what your body actually wants, and directing touch that feels good instead of going along with it.

These experiences create new neural pathways and become new reference points, allowing your body to catch up to what your mind already knows- that sex and intimacy can be safe and fun!

You start to trust that sex doesn’t have to feel overwhelming or disconnected, that you do have desires and preferences, and that joyful intimacy is still possible for you no matter what you’ve been through.

With this experiential learning, you can…

Stay present enough to actually receive pleasure.
Instead of freezing, dissociating, or disappearing into your head when your partner touches you, you can notice what's happening, communicate what you want, and let yourself receive. She puts her hand on your thigh and you feel warmth spread through your body as you melt into her touch.

Initiate without catastrophizing

You can flirt, make a move, or initiate sex without spiraling about whether you're being creepy or what her response means about you. Sexual connection becomes an exploration rather than a loaded offer.

Know and express what you want.
You can explore your desires without immediately judging, minimizing, or hiding them. You can tell your partner what feels good, ask for what you want, and change your mind when you don't.

Let’s be so for real

if just talking about your sex and intimacy struggles solved them, everybody would be having the best sex ever right now.

What if you could get crystal clear on your desires and feel confident enough to ask for what you want?

Keep the spark alive past the 2 month mark?

Get rid of shame so you finally feel like enough- queer enough, worthy enough, just as you are?

Initiate sex and flirting with confidence and feel relaxed no matter the outcome?

AND WHAT IF IT DIDN’T HAVE TO INVOLVE RE-TELLING YOUR TRAUMA STORIES FOR THE 100TH TIME OR PULLING A HAMMY IN A PERFORMATIVE SEX POSITION?

The Feral Intimacy Program offers you a structured, trauma informed, consent based arena where you notice what your intimacy blocks feel like in your body, and then gently practice new responses. This is how you can finally stop talking in circles and actually re-teach your body to access the feelings you thought you lost, like desire, playfulness, curiosity, and sensuality.

We aren’t trying to fit your sexual self into some performative, pre-determined box. The goal is to develop more connection, comfort, and choice with your body.

Freezing when the topic of sex comes up » Feeling curious about your own sexual desires and your partners

Getting stuck in your head wondering if your parter is having a good time » Allowing yourself to receive attention and pleasure without feeling guilty or selfish

Going along with touch that doesn’t feel good to keep your partner happy and not be rude » Knowing that your pleasure matters and confidently asking for adjustments so the touch is just right

I'm exited to meet you! Pick a time for a quick call then answer a few simple questions so I can get an idea of what you're looking for. We’ll talk about your intimacy goals and see if I'm the right person to support you.

FAQs

  • Every immersion is custom tailored to you and your goals. Potential experiences may include:

    • grounding practices to feel more present and safe in your body

    • movement practices to express stuck emotions like grief and rage

    • boundary and consent practices

    • a spectrum of touch-from educational, to pain/tension relief, to exploring states of pleasure and arousal

    • visualizations to explore your erotic mind

    • breathwork

    • role play conversations asking for what you want, flirting, setting boundaries, and navigating conflict

    Everything is done with your full, ongoing consent and within strict boundaries, including me remaining clothed at all times, any touch is specifically for your learning and growth, and any genital touch is one-directional (from me to you) with gloves.

    In short, there’s a wide menu for you to choose what sounds most supportive to you. And you can always change your mind!

  • That depends! If your goals include:

    • changing overnight

    • gathering sex tips and one size fits all advice you could ask chatGPT

    • trying to “hack” your nervous system to push your body into intimate situations

      Then this is not the program for you.

    BUT If you:

    • have a growth mindset

    • have already start your healing journey

    • are feeling “talked out” and want experiential learning instead of more analyzing

    Then you’ll likely find a private immersion deeply transformational and supportive!

    If after our connection call we determine that I’m not the best person to support you, I have a strong referral network and I’m happy to point you in a helpful direction.

  • Choose between a 1 or 3 day Immersion

    1 DAY: $850

    3 DAYS: $2,350

    Each day includes 5-6 hours of support with breaks, lunch, and online support sessions before and after your immersion.

    If you book a 1 day immersion then decide to book a 3 day immersion within 60 days, your full $850 will be credited, making the 3 day immersion only $1,500.

  • Most folks travel to me in Denver, Colorado. But I can also travel to you, or we can meet at a place we choose! We can discuss this and other details on our connection call.

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