Present for Pleasure
A course to help you navigate dissociation in sex.
Get out of your head and feel more connected to your own body and to partners with this video course of 6 essential skills to feel more present in sex and intimacy.
Dissociation isn’t a problem- it’s a signal
Leaving your body and feeling stuck in your head is a genius response to feeling overwhelmed. And sex and intimacy can feel overwhelming for so many reasons. From trauma, shame, sex and queer negative culture, religious dogma… you get it.
Even when you logically want intimacy, your nervous system is often on a different page. Getting your body and mind on the same page- that sex and intimacy is safe and enjoyable- requires more than just talking and more information. It requires practice and pacing.
That’s what sets Present for Pleasure apart from typical sexuality courses.
Real time exercises
Instead of talking at you, I guide you through exercises for feeling safe, dealing with triggers, talking to your partner, and in the moment tools for more presence and connection.
Nervous system centered
Instead of trying to force presence, you'll learn how to decode what your unique dissociation is trying to tell you, so you can support your nervous system and feel more present naturally.
Trauma informed
For the majority of us, we have some sort or trauma and shame around sexuality. So its really easy to feel overwhelmed fast. The practices in this course are gentle yet effective so you can learn without reinforcing dissociation responses.
Present for Pleasure is for you if…
You’re just starting to realize you space out in sex or your partner has noticed and asked about it
You know you dissociate but you're not sure HOW to stop
You've tried exercises you've seen on social media or learned in therapy with minimal results
You love your partner but sex still feels intimidating for some reason
You've dedicated time to healing and growth and you're ready to include your sexuality
Go beyond understanding your intimacy struggles and get actual practice being more present through 6 guided somatic practices that are trauma informed and gently paced for effective transformation.
“I've worked on this with at least 3 other people, and this is the first time I've felt something shift!”
“My partner and I are closer and more in love than we’ve probably ever been.”
“You put me at ease immediately. I really learned a lot. …I hope you know I cannot overstate my gratitude for the amount of difference you’ve made in my relationship and my life.”
Ready to feel more connected in sex and intimacy?
Normally $349
$249
What To Expect
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6 video lessons complete with education AND guided practices so you can understand and connect with your body in effective ways
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PDFs that include journal prompts, a conversation template
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Tried and true real life ways to create intimacy that feels more fulfilling
Your Intimacy Guide
Danie Bergstrom
I remember the first time the plexiglass I felt between me and other people melt away. It was like I was suddenly seeing, hearing, and feeling in HD. This was my beginning of thawing out from a lifetime of dissociation after sexual and religious trauma.
Once I learned to appreciate my dissociation for how it helped me, I was able to find ways of being in my body that didn't overwhelm me, and I went onto to study as a Somatic Sexologist so I could help others do the same.
I put all my personal experience and professional knowledge about dissociation in the course so you can feel the joy and pleasure that you deserve.
When you teach your body intimacy is safe, being present happens naturally
It's time to build the 6 essential skills that will help you feel more present during sex.
With these new intimacy skills, you'll be able to…
Connect Deeper
Start to thaw that feeling of frozenness or shut down so intimacy feels relaxing instead of a pressure filled task.
Feel Good
Start noticing the joy in little and big moments, in and out of the bedroom, so that pleasure feels accessible anywhere, anytime.
Self Acceptance
Replace trying to fix yourself with understanding and even compassion so you can feel more excited about intimacy.
WHAT’S INSIDE?
Get a sneak peak at the lessons
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Science of Dissociation: Understand why it's still happening and how to retrain your nervous system to be more present.
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Creating Safety: Start creating a foundation of safety and comfort in your body.
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Navigating Triggers: Learn how to interrupt your dissociation pattern sooner and how to come back to your body more easily.
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Talking with Partners: Identify what information is important for partners to know, and how to get their support without feeling like you're “too much.”
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Setting the Scene: Practical ways to set up your space to keep you more present and bring you back to your body when you get stuck in your head.
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AND MORE!